Why should it be Around Women Alone?

Yes, let's talk about marriage.

I might not be married but I think and aspire towards having the best marriage ever, as many of you undoubtedly do.
I also know that many of my readers wish to have a variety of experiences in marriage and for people who are already there how does it feel? Is it as good as you envisioned it to be?

The key issue to be discussed here is the major classification of the gender roles especially of women (which is a regular occurrence), in Marriage  I must say this frankly  I want to disagree with the basic orientation that women are psychologically built to make marriages work. I have come across many discussions, musical lyrics and religion talk shows that do not only put the woman to task about making marriage or relationships work, but, also feel women are or must be compelled to certain acts in the marriage.

Have you ever noticed that whenever there is marital issue, people around victimize and appropriate blame on the claim that a woman must be calm Please, is it written anywhere that a man is not supposed to be calm?  The society would have us understand that women have no option but to remain calm subservient enough to "accept the flaws of the man", even in grave danger and abuse.

Are men saints?

For all we have seen, heard and read; marriage is supposed to be collective with a psychological hierarchy and should be filled with LOVE which also initiates the reciprocity of respect isn’t that correct?

These Acts are a violation of women right, and they do not only violate the psychological existence of women, they also create an unstable awareness in the men It shows men that they can actually opt in and out in their respective marriages whenever they feel like it’s not working.

To further clarify my understanding Looking around, we could deduce that in several talks concerning marriage  women are battered and charged with how to put their "million God given qualities" such as how she must listen to her husband, Cook, take good care of the house or children and even on how she must have sex or satisfy him  to good use. Are women made just to work and satisfy? Then, one or two responsibilities would be counted as a major role of a man (which is basically to take good care of his wife and children or Family) with this ratio I disagree.

A man is built to shoulder more responsibility as regards to marriage; everything is not based on financial provision or protection. Satisfaction and the core originality of being a man must be visible  In recent times and thanks to globalization, we know that gender roles are undergoing speedy change and I believe marriage should also synchronize with the change in everything.
Nowadays, we have stay home dads and women becoming breadwinners in their homes


Written by Oluwafemi Kayode